What Anger Management Coaching Looks Like for You
What does anger management coaching looking like for you as a parent?
When it comes to anger management for parents it looks different than it would for someone dealing with anger management issues with coworkers or neighbors.
Cuz these are your kids. You love them to pieces and it’s so frustrating when you blow up and explode at them in ways that scare them. Trust me, I know this can happen when you’re parenting! Kids can literally drive you crazy!
First thing we do together in our session is explore the times that you get angry. You describe the situation – what was happening around, how you were feeling. We try to find a pattern, to see what situations are getting you upset.
Is it the mess? The disrespect? When there’s time pressure? When grandparents are coming to visit? Kids fighting? Bedtime?
Then we try to find the thought patterns behind those angry incidents. What were you thinking exactly at those moments?
‘Children are not supposed to talk to their parents like that!’
‘We’re going to be late AGAIN!!!’
‘LOOK AT THIS MESS!!!!’
The Anger Management Coaching Process:
1. Discover Subconscious Mind Beliefs
Using a combination of intuition and kinesiology (I have 16 years’ experience as in kinesiology or muscle testing and I can do it from a distance) I help discover the subconscious mind beliefs that are negatively impacting you and we rework them – removing the negative beliefs and recreating beliefs that will better serve you.
2. Anger Management Techniques to Reroute Your Thinking
Then the work begins! I give you techniques that are personalized to you to learn. Most of these new techniques are ways to change your thought process because changing your thoughts will change how you experience any given situation, thereby changing your feelings and changing the actions you take.
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3. Practice Makes Progress
You’ll have new techniques to practice and often homework to do to rewire your subconscious thoughts which consists of mantras to say and visualization to do.
It’s a fun process to do together, one which most of my clients love - cuz they get to know the inside workings of their subconscious mind - which is pretty cool.
4. Record it All
Then you record every time that you get angry – even if you feel even the slightest bit frustrated. You record the time of day, the situation and how you handled it.
And that is GOLD! Knowing what sets you off – is literally the key to finding the antidote to your anger.
You bring back your findings to me the next week and we continue to tweak your plan, work on your subconscious mind and learn more techniques.
Homework. Practice. Record. Repeat.
Anger Management Coaching Example
I was working with a client and we were trying to get to the root of what was in his subconscious mind – what was leading him to get angry in certain interactions with people. He mentioned that when he was young – his mother had raised him not to let others disagree with him – because it’s a sign of disrespect.
That’s what he had in his subconscious mind – that when someone disagreed with him that meant that they disrespected him.
That’s the point when I said to my client, whose name was Mohamed – ‘I’m assuming that you are Muslim, right? And I’m Jewish. You grew up in one culture and I grew up in another culture.
‘If we were to talk about religion, we might have a difference of opinion in some areas. But isn’t that beautiful? That G-d allows himself to be expressed in so many different ways by so many different cultures in the world?
‘When someone disagrees with me it means they are a different person than me and that’s ok. Diversity is really and truly Beautiful.’
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I gave Mohamed some homework to do, to repeat 3 times a day for the following week: ‘When someone disagrees with me it means that they are different from me. And that’s ok because diversity is beautiful.’
Mohamed came back a week later for our next session literally dancing. He was so excited about the difference this new core belief had made in his life. He couldn’t stop heaping praise. It was really nice to see the positive change he had seen.
The next thing I taught him blew his mind away. Mohamed was on such a high – he was incredulous. He actually went so far to tell me (I kid you not) that I could sell this concept for a million dollars and people would come running.
I’ve put together a short video sharing with you all about this next concept that I taught Mohamed. Can’t wait to hear if your reaction is as enthusiastic as Mohamed’s! (Leave comments below!)
It’s the first video in my Anger Management for Parents course.
Parenting can be frustrating and soooooo overwhelming at times! Anger management for parents is often a necessary step to move in the direction you want your parenting and your family to go in.
I commend you for your heroic first step in reading this post.
If you’re looking for one-on-one anger management coaching feel free to reach out and we can connect to see how I can help!
